Friday, October 26, 2007

A HEART ENTRAPPED


"Jealousy is simply and clearly the fear that you do not have value. Jealousy scans for evidence to prove the point - that others will be preferred and rewarded more than you. There is only one alternative - self-value. If you cannot love yourself, you will not believe that you are loved. You will always think it's a mistake or luck. Take your eyes off others and turn the scanner within. Find the seeds of your jealousy, clear the old voices and experiences. Put all the energy into building your personal and emotional security. Then you will be the one others envy, and you can remember the pain and reach out to them." ~ Jennifer James


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posted by Señor Enrique at 8:14 AM


16 Comments:

Anonymous kyels said...

Learning to love ourselves is the first step towards everything; me thinks.

(:

October 26, 2007 9:58 AM  

Anonymous iskoo said...

senor, nakakabilib naman yung composition mo? may matutunan lesson. mahirap talaga ma trap sa jealousy or enviousness

October 26, 2007 10:27 AM  

Anonymous bernadette said...

thank you for the reflection, senor enrique! I do like the quotes that you choose as well as the pictorial compositions that interpret them.

Jealousy and envy can get me too. I pride myself in not indulging in it but then it can get me too pala! I confess I have to also humble myself and work on truly loving myself!

The media and peer pressure are usually sources why we are vulnerable to these attitudes and oftentimes we're just so gullible to society's way of judging perfection.

October 26, 2007 2:25 PM  

Blogger Aura said...

So true SE, so true...

I really dont believe in jealousy,because in my opinion jealousy is a sign of insecurity and mistrust.

October 26, 2007 4:35 PM  

Blogger Senor Enrique said...

I agree wth you, Kyels. Because in reality, how can we ever love anyone else if we know not how to love our own self first?

Unfortunately, during my younger days, I had no idea that it was ownership of the other person that I was so involved with instead of giving love. It did take me some time, though, to gain the wisdom to reevaluate my thoughts and actions towards this subject of love.

October 26, 2007 7:32 PM  

Blogger Senor Enrique said...

Ay, salamat, Iskoo. Kung minsan kung ano-ano naiisip na kunan ng litrato lalo na pag nasa loob lang ng bahay dahilan sa walang hintong pag-ulan ... hehehe.

Tama ka, mahirap mabitag sa pagiisip na nakaka-bad trip sa isang mahal mo sa buhay tulad ng pagseselos at inggit. Lalo lamang silang lumalayo sa asar :)

October 26, 2007 7:36 PM  

Blogger Senor Enrique said...

Thank you for those wise words, Bernadette.

Sometimes, the best way for me to drive home my point to friends who are feeling gloomy because of certain dilemmas is to search for meaningful quotes to share with them.

A kumpadre's son is just about had it with his wife due to her unfounded jealousy. So I tried to explain to him the pain that she must be going through due to her feelings of inadequacy, and that was when the image of a heart entrapped came into mind.

Intense fear often manifests as jealousy, envy, and feelings of inadequacy. And the heart, in the process, becomes trapped, unable to grow and express its true nature.

Yes, the media and peer pressure can be influential in instilling fearful feelings in all of us. That's why we must always be mindful of what we allow into our consciousness.

October 26, 2007 7:49 PM  

Blogger Senor Enrique said...

And I would sometimes ask friends why they'd choose to stay in a relationship where trust hardly exists, Aura?

I think it's such a stressful situation for all parties involved (even to the kids if they have any) whenever insecurity and mistrust dominate a relationship.

October 26, 2007 7:55 PM  

Anonymous rhodora said...

Hmmm... jealousy... lemme see...

I guess hubby and I are past that stage. Right now, we even joke about it - "honey, phone call - girlfriend mo." hehehe.

Kasi nakaka-drain ang jealously. I think it's the most negative of all negative emotions. It can drive one crazy and when so possessed with it already - a person loses control of himself and may even commit a crime. Horrible!

October 26, 2007 10:12 PM  

Blogger NOYPETES said...

..If you compare yourself with others, you may become vain or bitter. For always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself. Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans. Keep interested in your own career however humble; It is a real possesion in the changing fortunes of time...Desiderata, written by Max Ehrmann in the 1920's...Not found in Old St. Paul's Curch.

Eric,
Remember this in the early 70's?

October 26, 2007 11:03 PM  

Blogger g_mirage said...

True, to give love is to have love first. But I think the first commandment goes: 'Love God above all' which is followed by 'Love your neighbor as yourself' (as was in my previous comment) in Matthew 22:38-39.

Im sorry Senor if I keep bombarding you with my comments on Bible verses...

Your photos are always full of emotion and the accompanying text always appropriate...You really are a great 'COMPOSER.' =)

Anyway, this is what the bible says about 'improper' jealousy.

Proverbs 14:30 A calm heart is the life of the fleshly organism, but jealousy is rottenness to the bones.

Have a nice weekend! ;-)

October 27, 2007 5:20 AM  

Blogger Senor Enrique said...

Your sharing of these Bible verses, G. Mirage, is much appreciated, for I'm sure many are reminded when they read them once again, and thus guided by these words of great wisdom in times of trouble.

Truly, jealousy imprisons the heart that harbors it.

Many thanks, G. Mirage!

October 27, 2007 6:19 AM  

Blogger Senor Enrique said...

Why, of course, Pete! Desiderata with music at the backdrop! That was such a big hit back then. I should post a blog about it.

"Keep interested in your own career however humble; It is a real possesion in the changing fortunes of time..."

Definitely something that which I need to hear at this very moment ... hehehe. You just made my day :)

Muchas gracias, Pete!

October 27, 2007 6:24 AM  

Blogger Senor Enrique said...

You are so right, Rhoda -- crimes of passion. Still a crime which can land anyone in jail for many years!

Jealousy is indeed one of the most insidious manifestation of fear which can destroy many lives, including those of innocent children who are sometimes put to task by a parent to spy on the other.

I've seen enough cases of which but unfortunately, many still succumb to it. They can get extremely nasty.

October 27, 2007 6:28 AM  

Anonymous bw said...

Jealousy is part and parcel of our human nature but when it gets to the point of paranoia it is a relationship breaker.

As they say " you will be deceived if you trust too much but will live in torment if you do not trust enough". An overly jealous person will agonize and live in torment for the rest of his/her because of the inability to put enough trust on a partner. Who is to blame ??

October 28, 2007 5:53 AM  

Blogger Senor Enrique said...

"You will be deceived if you trust too much but will live in torment if you do not trust enough."

First time I heard it but I love it :)

I've seen enough relationships through the years damaged by excessive jealousy and mistrust, BW. It is sadly, a destructive human malady.

Hmmm ... guess it's time to truly embody unconditional love ... hehehe.

October 28, 2007 7:24 AM  

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